Have you ever felt disconnected from motherhood?! Like you know that you are responsible for two little humans but the fact that you’re their MOM (and everything that that role entails) has escaped you?!
I’m not quite sure how else to explain the conundrum but surrounding Mother’s Day, I felt extremely disconnected from the weight of that role. I repeatedly looked at them and thought things like “How are they mine? I’m not good enough to be their mom. I am feeding them and keeping them alive, but mother them?! It’s just not in my wheelhouse.”
You know what I realized? I was feeling that way because you can spend 5 minutes on the internet and see exactly how everyone else thinks motherhood should look. Or a couple of hours with friends and see that you do the thannng COMPLETELY differently than they do. I’ll repeat COMPLETELY different.
What you consider a job done well just doesn’t hold a candle to the standards they have.
And you know what?!
Shortly after these thoughts were floating through my head, I was looking at my angel babies (after they were asleep of course, although I am surrendering to God’s transforming love that I might look at them like this all the time!!) and realizing that part of why my motherhood doesn’t look like others is because I am pursing my dream.
And me pursuing my dream is already inspiring my boys to pursue theirs. Greyson is already directing and starring in his own films (Daddy is an excellent cameraman). And he’s gone from wanting to be a mudhill motorcycle racer to being a motorcycle police officer with his brother in just a week’s time. He also plans to have a dot-com with Henley one day, just like me and my sister. (I can’t. It’s seriously so cute!)
While they might not be on a sugarfree diet or living in a tech free home, they are dreaming big. (Not that it’s wrong if that is what your version of Motherhood looks like, it’s just OK that mine doesn’t!!)Motherhood is not one-size-fits-all. And that's OK!Click To Tweet
I remind them daily that God loves them and that they have created value and purpose. That they were created in the image of God to be strong and brave, not fearful or to be constrained by any boxes.
So let’s reconnect to our unique callings in motherhood. Get grounded in your own philosophy of motherhood and don’t look at the philosophy of others in comparison. God created us all so uniquely and loves to watch His children get creative and not be swayed by the different directions that others are going.
Recognizing this struggle hit me hard. It is exactly what I am teaching my boys against. I want them to KNOW that if their path looks different than what everyone else says is practical or logical or THE BEST, it’s OK. This mama wants to practice what she preaches and mother confidently in my own unique style. You can too, and here’s how!
Step 1 | Get grounded in your philosophy of motherhood.
What values are most important for you to instill in your children?
Fast foward to them being out of the house, what will you look back on and wish you had taught them more about?
Step 2 | Admire don’t give in to comparison.
I know it seems so much easier said than done. But really, mamas sharing their version of motherhood on instagram are not trying to oppress you or force you into compliance with their version of motherhood. We can be happy for them doing their thanng without feeling like our thing doesn’t matter. Even if it goes against the norm for the majority at the time.
Step 3 | Empower your kids by empowering yourself.
If something doesn’t build you up in the area of motherhood. Don’t subscribe to it. Seriously. You are in control of who and what you follow. If you can’t see something from another mama without feeling condemned for being different, just don’t look at it.
Your babes will learn best from example, so when they see a strong, brave, confident mama they will be empowered to embody that too.Empower your babes by being a strong, brave, confident Mama!! Click To Tweet
Step 4 | Enjoy motherhood!
With social media we are so caught up with the “right” way to do motherhood that we forget to enjoy it.
Create special memories with your children, even if its just you reading a book near them while they play in a confined space (afternoons on our front porch are everybody’s fav around here.)
Step 5 | Believe that you are fully equipped for the job.
God gave your children to you specifically. What if it’s because the way you uniquely mother sets them up to partner with Him in the purpose and destiny that He has just for them?! How cool is that to think about?God gave your children to you specifically. What if it's because the way you uniquely mother sets them up to partner with Him in the purpose and destiny that He has just for them?!Click To Tweet
So tell me do you ever struggle with this? What are some practical takeaways that you can put into action today? Join the conversation below!
Cheering you on Mama! You can do you with confidence!