Welcome to the first ever Style Wise Wednesday! You guys are going to LOVE this series. So here’s the premise. Lindsey and I have a hysterical conversation (most of our conversations are hysterical, reason #1 that this will soon become a weekly podcast) around a style related question. Eventually (read: ASAP) these will be questions from YOU, our readers. Buuuttt since you didn’t know to ask us any style related questions yet, Lindsey and I came up with a few on our own. And let me tell you, they are pretty good if we do say so ourselves.
Style Wise Question #1
How do you
define DEVELOP your own style? (Told you this question is lit. You’ll see why we replaced define soon, don’t you worry.)
*This convo is a little all over the place (you’ll see why) so scroll to the bottom for a succinct list of our 10 Tips.
L | Ok, developing your own style. ACTION!
J | Hahaha, ugghhhhh.
L | That’s gonna go in the transcript.
J | You guys!! (My tone is melodramatic here if you were wondering.) Lindsey and I had this INCREDIBLE conversation about this and didn’t realize the audio wasn’t recording. Anybody a good lip reader?! I’m telling you that convo was MONEY!! Also, reason #304945380785847 this will become a podcast ASAP. What do you guys think?! Oh wait, this is the first one so you probably don’t know yet.
L | Yeah, slow your roll, Jen.
J | Ok, inhale, exhale. We can do this.
L | So basically we were just talking about how we like the idea of developing our style, not necessarily defining it so we’re not confined to one specific box of styles. That way our style is able to evolve as we evolve. And we also feel confident in our style, not placing our self in this bubble where “I have to wear this because it’s what’s in right now.”Develop your style, don't define it. Defining is limiting and developing is evolving. Click To Tweet
J | Right, or “I have to wear this because this is the style I’ve always gone for.”
L | Yeah, you don’t have to confine yourself to one space. Just because you’ve always dressed a certain way doesn’t mean you have to always dress that certain way. You can step out of your comfort zone and know that it’s OK.
J | So we talked about how when you’re in a transition your style can be an eclectic collection of the old and the new. Like how in our homes we went through a major farmhouse phase and then wanted to transition into more of a mid century modern aesthetic, it’s ok for those things to meld together. You don’t have to start over completely all at once.
L | Yeah that struggle is REAL.
J| The whole idea behind our blog is that our personal style shows up in everything we do. How we dress ourselves, how we decorate our homes, how we mother, how we live out our faith. It can have a Jenne or Lindsey stamp on it that is unique to us.
L | Yes, and owning your style is empowering because it cuts comparison!Owning your style is so empowering, and it cuts comparison!Click To Tweet
J | Speaking of, we had talked about following Instagram/Pinterest accounts that inspire you. DON’T COMPARE! Recognize that your style doesn’t have to look exactly like theirs. You can just pull things from there style into yours that appeal to you. You also don’t have to be limited to just what is in their style.
L | Yeah, exactly.
J | We talked about how with style you can decide what kind of persona you want to put off that day.
L | Yeah, you could be preppy; edgy; sassy.
J | Maybe that could be a tip, decide what personalities you have. Haha, not that we all have multiple personalities, but we all have multiple components to our personalities. And what styles go with those.
L | Or think of it like what lifestyle do you have. Like do you have places to wear a lot of dressy things. Like you don’t necessarily want to fill your closet with a ton of fancy dresses because you don’t have an occasion to where them to all the time. Determine what your lifestyle is like and what clothing you will wear most often.
J | Well, and on that note too, what items do you want to wear most often. Because I would say the last few years I’ve just been gravitating toward what is basic and comfortable and I would say after today (I did a tryon at Forever 21, in my saved stories on Insta) I’m recognizing that I want to still be comfortable but take more risks. Like be the dressiest mom at the playground. I DON’T EVEN CARE!
L | Yeah, that was another main theme. Style to us is more of a feeling/experience than an outward appearance. We like to wear clothes that inspire us and we feel confident in. We like to decorate our homes with an aesthetic that is pleasing to our eyes. It might affect us more extremely than others (like no I cannot chill until my home is all white! haha) I think everybody has an aesthetic that appeals to them personally.
J | Definitely! It’s so cool to me that a sense of style looks so different for everybody!Everyone's sense of style looks different, and that's okay! Click To Tweet
10 Tips for Developing YOUR Personal Style
- DEVELOP your style don’t define it.
- Recognize that your style is always evovling and that is OK.
- Look for your style in everything from how you decorate your home, how you parent your kids (we’re all cool moms, right?!), how you live out your faith, and how you dress yoself.
- Recognize that style is a feeling. Look around, do the things you own bring tranquility/calm or do you see chaos. Do the things you wear bring out confidence or do you feel like you want to hide in the crowd.
- Think about all the different aspects of your personality. What kind of styles fit those personality traits?
- Ask yourself what types of clothing you wear/need most often.
- Ask yourself what you want to wear most often.
- If what you want to wear and what you do wear are one in the same, good for you! Keep on keeping on!
- If what you want to wear and what you do wear are NOT the same, time to take some risks, girlfriend!
- Follow Instagram/Pinterest profiles for inspiration. Mine is here (Jenne) and Lindsey’s can be found here. Click to our Pinterest. Ya, know just in case you needed a suggestion, or two, or three. Wink, wink!
- DON’T COMPARE! First of all, social media contains highlight reels. Everybody has their days where they stay in their pjs all day and their behind on the dishes and laundry. (Oh, just me?!) Second of all, don’t limit yourself to one person’s style. Take what you like, add your own flair to it and leave the rest!
- HAVE FUN!! Style is not supposed to be restrictive but a fun way to get creative and express yoself!
Did this change the way you think about your personal style in any way? Do you have any style related questions you would like us to answer in a future Style Wise Wednesday Post? Please let us know in the comments!